Monogamous relationships just aren’t some people’s thing, or can be a severe strain on both parties in certain situations. Sure, you might love your wife or girlfriend, but what if circumstances have landed you ten thousand miles away from each other? Satisfying your sex drive is one thing, but the stress and loneliness that results can be the real killer in a committed relationship.
You Might Think It’s Normal for Guys to Want Sex, but Women Need It Too
There are a million stories about the man abroad for war indulging in the local ladies, but when women do the same on the home front; it’s looked much more harshly upon. It’s not fair to them, really. Ladies need to get laid just as bad as men do sometimes, and just like us, their hand or a vibrator just doesn’t always cut it. So when you’re away or otherwise indisposed to give her what she needs, it’s really only fair to at least discuss the option with her. Women tend to be more disposed to monogamy than men, but as long as you phrase it right, she’ll be touched by your concern for her pussy’s needs even if she doesn’t take you up on the offer. Careful, though. Phrase it wrong and she might take it as you trying to trick her into letting you cheat.
Even When You’re Not Away from Home, Variety Is the Spice of Life
A common relationship-ending complaint is boredom. When you’ve been with each other for five, ten, fifteen years, you can maybe understand where this is coming from. If you try out all the positions the Kama Sutra has to offer, even granting you a few months recovery time here and there for the occasional accident, you’re going to run out of ideas eventually, and potentially even interest in each other’s bodies. The love is still there, though, and you’re left with a frustrated libido and a guilty conscience. Some break time on both ends from a monogamous sexual relationship can sometimes rekindle the spark between the two of you.
Jealousy Can Kill, on Both Ends
The most obvious issue that arises from mutually open relationships is the jealousy issue. Even if you think that you’re both mature enough to be above that sort of thing, and even if you think your relationship can endure it, it’s a normal human reaction. While it’s normal, some people just aren’t equipped to handle it. The media and society has pretty much brainwashed the population into considering a monogamous relationship the inarguable ideal, which doesn’t help matters in the least.
The way to combat this is communication, before, during, and after the fact. Don’t try forcing her into giving you an insincere approval of the whole thing. If you’re feeling that guilty about it, you might want to reconsider the whole idea to begin with. Fact of the matter is, open relationships are just not some people’s thing, and no amount of pleading or offers of permitting her to do the same are really going to satisfy her.